Sunday, September 23, 2012

The Mother-in-Law Test

Brad Sullivan
Proper 20, Year B
Sunday, September 23, 2012
St. Mark’s, Bay City
Proverbs 31:10-31
Psalm 1
James 3:13-4:3, 7-8a
Mark 9:30-37

I don’t know about you, but the disciples’ argument over who is the greatest among them is not entirely foreign to me.  There are many times when I’ve desired greatness or dreamed of being famous and winning awards for a variety of things.  I know I’ve even argued about who was better than whom, at least with my identical twin brother.  Growing up, it seemed like most things were a competition between the two of us; we were always trying to one up each other.  Now that we’re grown…not much has changed, but I get the disciples’ desire for greatness and their argument over who is the greatest. 

I’m guessing most of us get their desire to some extent or another.  Any of us who have ever played sports or been in any competition at all understand a desire to be better than others at something, and yet when I read about the disciples’ desire for greatness, there always seems something kind of ugly about it, which then tells me that there’s probably something a little bit ugly about my desires for greatness.

“But the wisdom from above,” James writes, “is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without a trace of partiality or hypocrisy.  And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace for those who make peace.” (James 3:17-18)  I could hear those words over and over again, and just sip on them all morning long like a hot cup of coffee.  What a wonderful way to live with the wisdom from above which James describes.

That stands in rather stark contrast to desires for greatness the way Jesus’ disciples were behaving in our Gospel this morning, arguing over who was the greatest among them.  I don’t think this means that we shouldn’t strive to be great at whatever we do.  Rather, Jesus is referring to our desires to be admired for our greatness and vaulted above everyone else.  So, Jesus tells his disciples to be servants rather than to try to be better and have a higher social standing than everyone else.  Be like a child, Jesus says, or in this context, be like someone with no social standing whatsoever.  Children, at least toddlers, are not always the most peaceable, gentle, and willing to yield…I love the terrible twos, but children don’t, at least in my experience, tend to care all that much about class and social standing. 

            Unless they’re taught to, children don’t much care about the social standing of those with whom they play. If you’re nice and fun, they’ll pretty well want to play with you.  So, be a servant, and be like a child, Jesus says.  Serve others and don’t care too much about rungs on the social ladder.

            Then we have James.  Jesus was comparatively easy on the disciples regarding their ambitions for greatness.  Be like a child, Jesus said.  James, on the other hand, wrote, “But if you have bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not be boastful and false to the truth.  Such wisdom does not come down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, devilish.” (James 3:14-15)

            Now, it would be pretty easy as a preacher to take these readings and give a “do more, be better, try harder” sermon.  If you just try harder, you can be like a servant child or like the kind of disciple James tells us to be.  To a certain extent, yes, we could.  There isn’t a particularly lot of good news, however, in “do more, try harder, be better.”  It’s nice to know that we can, but that’s not really the Gospel message. 

            “Do more, try harder, be better” seems like it might be the Gospel message by looking at our Proverbs reading for today, or at least for all the women.  I guess the guys are off the hook.  “A capable wife, blah, blah, blah.”  Let’s put this reading into a little bit of context. 

            This was written as a mother to her son.  So, reading this as the wife’s mother-in-law saying what she wants her daughter-in-law to be like, it puts some of the hyperbolae of perfection into context.  But still, rather than read this simply as a treatise on how to be or how to find a good wife, we might benefit more if we read this passage as describing how the church should be as the bride of Christ.

            So the church, as the bride of Christ manages the affairs of the household well.  The church takes care of those in need, makes wise decisions regarding resources and finances, works hard, clothes and feeds not only the poor, but also herself and her household, i.e. the church takes care of its own.  As the bride of Christ, the church is wise, kind, strong, brave, and most importantly, faithful to God.

            Ok, so again, as the bride of Christ, we, the church, could do better.  Even of our own power, we could do better, but of our own power, we’re not going to be that perfect.  I don’t think the church ever has or ever will live up to the perfection illustrated in Proverbs.  The good news of the Gospel is that we’re not the bride of Christ all on our own.  The church, as the bride of Christ, is united to Christ, the two having been made one. 

            In the Proverbs reading, it seems as though this perfect wife acts with the husband nowhere around.  They aren’t partners, rather, she does all the work and he takes all the credit.  As the church, we don’t act on our own.  We don’t strive on our own.  Jesus helps us in our efforts.  When we try to live as Jesus taught us to live, and when we seek his help in doing so, Jesus guides us and strengthens us.  We’re never alone as we seek to live well.  As Paul said to the Athenians, God made humankind “so that they would search for God and perhaps grope for him and find him – though indeed he is not far from each one of us.  For ‘In him we live and move and have our being.’ (Acts 17:27-28)

            All that we do is done in God.  Our good deeds and our not so good deeds are all done within God’s very self.  As God’s beloved, God has united himself to us such that all of our lives are lived within him.  Little wonder, then, that we might wish to be better or try harder.

The purpose of our marriage to Christ, however, isn’t simply so that we’ll be better people.  In regular old marriage, we don’t generally marry thinking that doing so will make us better people.  We marry out of love.  With Christ too, we are joined to Christ simply out of love and then seek to do good out of love as well.  We’re not trying to be good enough for Jesus, for Jesus has already declared us good enough to be his bride.  We’re trying to love Jesus as much as we can in response to his love for us.

            How then does this tie back to the disciples’ desire and our desire for greatness.  For St. Mark’s, as part of the whole church, we would want to be an excellent bride of Christ, not to be better or get more recognition than the other churches in Bay City, as if we were in competition with them, rather, we would want to be an excellent bride of Christ out of our love of Jesus. 

            A desire for greatness or a desire to one up any of the other churches feels just as ugly for St. Mark’s as for Jesus’ disciples in our Gospel reading today.  Instead of quarreling over greatness like the disciples did today, we would be lowly and be ok with that, seeking to do good simply out of our love for Jesus.  We would seek not greatness or admiration, as we often think of it, but rather , we would seek the wisdom from above.  “[For] the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without a trace of partiality or hypocrisy.  And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace for those who make peace.” (James 3:17-18)  Amen.

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