Sunday, June 16, 2013

This is Too Important to Get Right

Brad Sullivan
Proper 6, Year C
Sunday, June 16, 2013
St. Mark’s, Bay City
1 Kings 21:1-10, (11-14), 15-21a
Psalm 5:1-8
Galatians 2:15-21
Luke 7:36-8:3

In thinking about our Gospel story this week, one thing occurred to me which had never really occurred to me before.  The Pharisee was right.  That woman had no business being in his house.  He was having a dinner party, and this woman whom he hadn’t invited showed up and began harassing one of his guests, all of that, in addition to the fact that she was a sinner.  We don’t know how bad she was or exactly what she did, but it was enough to have been well known, such that she was notoriously sinful.

So the Pharisee was right.  She didn’t have any business being there, and the Pharisee was committed to upholding what was right.  The woman needed to change her ways, and possibly make some big time changes to her ways before she showed up at the Pharisee’s house. 

The Pharisee was holding this woman accountable for her actions, saying “that’s not who we are.  We don’t behave the way you’ve been behaving.  God has given us a way of life in which the harm you’ve been causing yourself and others just doesn’t fit.”  The Pharisee wanted her to change her ways, to live as a Jew before he would have her in his house.

Jesus, you’ll notice didn’t disagree.  The woman was a sinner, Jesus even said she had many sins, and yet rather than hold her to task for her sins, rather than be concerned with what was right, he decided to forgive her.  The way of Jesus is the way of love and forgiveness.  Jesus knew she wanted to repent, to change her ways, so he had no problem forgiving her.  He wasn’t concerned with justifying himself in his actions.  He wasn’t concerned with being right like the Pharisee was.  Jesus was only concerned about doing what was right for the woman. 

Now the Pharisee might have said, “but wait, Jesus, that woman doesn’t deserve to be forgiven.”  Jesus would have said, “You got it.  You’re right.  That’s the point.”  We don’t forgive people because they deserve it.  We forgive people out of love. 

If we wait to forgive until a person deserves it, until that person has paid whatever penalty is owed, then we aren’t practicing forgiveness.  We’re just burning the note after a debt is paid.  Forgiveness means forgiving the debt, not collecting, burning the note before the debt is paid.  That means giving up our pride, giving up our sense of justice, and giving up our sense of what is right.

Being comfortable with who we are, is essential if we are going to be forgiving people who love God.  I’ve found it easy to forgive when I am at peace with myself.  When I feel threatened or wronged or feel somehow less than I should be (don’t feel great about my life or myself), then I find it difficult to forgive.  I want to uphold justice and a sense of what is right and part of that is to soothe my own sense of being wronged or hurt somehow. 

I think the Pharisee felt this way.  Like most of us, I’m guessing he had varying degrees of self doubt and hurt inside of him.  Carrying those burdens, the Pharisee had a hard time forgiving.  Carrying the burdens of self doubt and hurt, he had a strong need to uphold justice and to uphold what was right.  To be more complete himself, he felt he had to do what was “right”, he had to hold the woman accountable for her sins. 

Jesus, on the other hand, was totally ok with who he was.  He was not burdened with self doubt or hurt, and so he could forgive the woman.  Unconcerned with making her pay her penalty before she could be forgiven, Jesus saw a woman who was hurting.  Jesus saw a woman who was in pain, probably from others and from her own poor choices, and he decided to ease her pain and forgive her sins.

When we, like Jesus are content with life as it is, we can more readily forgive. When we have no need to feel strong, we can forgive.  Forgiveness is an act of weakness so to speak.  If we hold something over someone’s head, not forgiving them, then there is a feeling of power over that person.  Forgiving that person is giving up that power. 

Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, “The Lord said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.’  So, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.  Therefore I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities for the sake of Christ; for whenever I am weak, then I am strong.” 

Content with our own weaknesses, we can more readily forgive others out of love for others.  Giving up our power, giving up our strength and forgiving others is the way of God, the way of Jesus, to forgive out of love, rather than to hold onto the wrong out of being right.  The forgiveness someone’s wrong may not be deserved, but that’s God’s way, to forgive.

Notice also the result of forgiveness.  She loved Jesus greatly, having been forgiven much.  “Therefore, I tell you,” Jesus said, “her sins, which were many, have been forgiven; hence she has shown great love.”  When someone acknowledges their sins, and that person’s sins are forgiven, the result is love.  We love because of the kindness shown and want to then give that same kindness to others.

Must we, then, build up a huge store of bad deeds so that we can be forgiven much in order to love God?  Do we have to sin a lot in order to love God more?  If we live a wholesome life, honoring God and honoring each other in our actions, will we then love God less because we feel we have been forgiven less?  By not feeling as strongly the gratitude from having been forgiven much, would we necessarily love less? 

Well, possibly, but I don’t believe necessarily.  Otherwise, the lesson would be, “Go, sin a whole big darn lot, that way, when you’re done, you can repent and really love God, and be that much better off.”  We can also love God purely for the beauty of who God is.  We don’t have to hate ourselves in order to love God.

We do, however, need to be able to look at ourselves honestly.  We do need to be able to acknowledge our faults.  In doing to, we can become comfortable with who we are.  We may not like all of who we are, but by acknowledging our faults, we can accept God’s forgiveness, love God more, and be content with who we are, scars and all.  Accepting our own weakness, we can trust more in God’s strength, accept God’s forgiveness, and love more fully.  For “‘[God’s] grace is sufficient for [us], for power is made perfect in weakness.’ So, [we] will boast all the more gladly of [our] weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in [us]... for whenever [we are] weak, then [we are] strong.”  Amen.

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